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October 6, 2020
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(Bonus points if you can find the two direct quotes I didn't mark and tell me where they came from.) The Presidential Election is upon us. And, as usual, that means arguments, debates, more arguments, huge gaps in opinions, even more arguments . . . well, you've seen it. The reason why is simple: People don't like either losing or being wrong. But in the United States, that mentality has gone to another level since Barak Obama was elected. In the two and a half months between the 2008 election and his inauguration, the FBI broke up two assassination plots. Racist materials were discovered in both cases. And when Donald Trump faced Hillary Clinton, what we've been seeing since was inevitable. Both racists and feminists are volatile, and that's what's coming out. If Clinton had won (which she had no chance), it would have been the same the other way around. In both cases, the honest Democrats and Republicans get caught in the middle, like it is now. What I've discovered just by talking with people (on all sides) is that this is because of an emotional need to be agreed with--not to be right. It doesn't matter if they're right or wrong, what the consequences are, if anyone lives or dies--as long as they're agreed with. Let me say this again: Arguing is because of emotional discomfort, usually from preconcepts being challenged. When people want to reach a conclusion, they either rush, rationalize, or realize. That means they either don't wait for the evidence, they make as many excuses as necessary for a predetermined conclusion, or they wait for and analyze the evidence. In today's society, when they can't come up with any rational explanations, they get defensive. They get angry, sometimes. They say, "That's just the way I was raised," or they tell you about how it's just not moral. Because they can't explain it. That's an emotional reaction to being attacked, having a value which is so deeply ingrained in their psyche that they feel attacked. The excuses get worse. "That's what I read," citing an opinion piece. (This is especially bad in politics and religion.) "My parent was in that profession, so I know," is just arrogance. There are many more. The more a person can't handle emotional discomfort, the more they freak out. Some argue to their wits' end. Some will storm off just to get away. The worst will turn violent, which is unusual. I've had that happen to me, though. But freakouts are normal for the person who can't put reason before emotion. The secret to this is to remember that feelings defy reason. The secret to taking control is to ask yourself questions that start with, "Why?" "Why am I freaking out?" "Why am I angry right now?" "Why am I sad?" "Why this?" "Why that?" As children, we got pushed away from that question a lot. And now that we're adults, it's like a lot of people have been trained to not ask why, to not ask questions, to take these feelings and just bury them deep, deep, deep inside of you, and you know, some people? They can just do that. And then they become older, and they're just these grumpy ass old people, nobody likes them and they don't like anybody, and it's this vicious circle, nobody liking anybody. Or, you get the worst ones. These are the people who are calling the shots, today. And to stop them, we have to
At this point, I'll have to stop and spend some time going through past blogs. I'm not sure if what I want to say is something I've already blogged about. The next blog will be a follow-up to this one. I'll just add this: Since the honest Democrats and Republicans are caught in the middle, they will be the ones who have to stand up against in in unity. Those last two words will be the problem. Until next time . . . |
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